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Parenthood and maintaining a healthy relationship are ambitious endeavors. Being fully aware, you armed yourself with all the latest books, articles, podcasts, and resources, committed to being present and strong for your family. Yet, despite embracing every piece of advice and strategy in your search for reassurance, there are times you find yourself wondering why the harmony, connection, and closeness you envisioned seem out of reach. If this rings true, let me tell you: it’s not you! It’s what they didn’t tell you. The parenting guidance and strategies we read online lack depth. They hardly ever address the transition into parenthood and the profound impact this has on our identity, partnerships, and ability to show up as the parent we wish to be for our children. But guess what? We’re about to turn that around. Hi there, I’m Markella Kaplani. A clinical-counseling psychologist, a parenthood and relationship Coach, a matrescence coach and facilitator, a former special educator, and a parent myself. In my 15+ years in counseling and coaching, I know this to be true: once a parent is truly supported, not only through being given techniques to overcome parenting challenges, but on a personal and relational level, then the entire family can thrive. So, welcome to the Parenthood and Relationship Podcast! Here, we learn to grow individually, normalizing and validating the processes of matrescence and patrescence (i.e. struggling with identity, mom guilt, dad guilt, postpartum rage, work-life balance, etc). We also grow together by unraveling how parenthood affects marriage and what stands in the way of following the actionable parenting strategies that we know are helpful. So, if you’re feeling ready, let me hold your hand while we tackle intriguing, yet difficult topics, with compassion and curiosity. Interested to know more? - Reach out via email at info@markellakaplani.com with your questions, and - Visit www.markellakaplani.com to access FREE resources and check out ways to work with me personally. Let’s do this! --- 🔎 Is Parenthood Making or Breaking Your Relationship? FIND OUT NOW! https://www.markellakaplani.com/couplesquiz 🖥 Reconcile the ’old’ identity with the ’new’ Grab your FREE Matrescence Mini-Course https://www.markellakaplani.com/videoseries 👥 Join our Circle: www.facebook.com/groups/parenthoodandrelationship/ 🤝 Would you like a more personalized touch? I can offer Parenthood and Relationship Coaching. info@markellakaplani.com www.markellakaplani.com Book an introductory session to explore our chemistry and whether I am the right fit for you: http://tidycal.com/markellakaplani/intro-session
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Sunday Aug 17, 2025
Sunday Aug 17, 2025
In today’s episode, we explore a deceptively simple, but deeply messy, question: Whose values are you parenting from?
It’s a gentle, courageous invitation to uncover the scripts we’ve inherited; values absorbed from our families, communities, even the culture at large, and ask: Are these values yours… or just familiar?
Join me as we unravel what “values” really mean: not slogans, but the guiding principles that show up when you’re tired or triggered.
We'll look at where those values come from, how they can misalign with the family you actually want, and how to begin choosing values that reflect your own vision, not just the one you inherited.
You'll hear:
- Why many of us parent by default, using values we never consciously chose
- A simple but powerful framework: Keep • Rewrite • Release, used to redefine what matters most
- Real-life stories of couples navigating differences in meaning and merging into a shared, intentional value system
This isn’t about blame or perfection.
It’s about awareness, courage, and alignment.
Because values like presence, kindness, rest, or respect deserve a lived definition that you and your partner both own.
This episode’s breakdown:
1. How inherited values shape your parenting without you realizing it
2. The three-column framework to keep, rewrite, or release values
3. What happens when you and your partner define the same words differently
4. The emotional power of choosing values that align with the family you truly want
Take this episode as your mirror:
a chance to pause, get curious, and reclaim the values that light you up.
You don’t need a manifesto.
You need clarity and courage.
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Markella Kaplani, M.A.
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Parenthood & Relationship Coach
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